the dating game
I’ve really been neglecting this place. Anybody still stop by to see if I’ve written an entry or two? LOL, I’ll try to at least update once a month. Work has been pretty busy and overall my life isn’t interesting over here.
Oh, yeah, I do have something to write about actually. I actually thought about writing about this last week but never got around to it.
I seem to have this gift of attracting real big jerks. I’m not sure what it is, my pheromones probably. I changed deodorants, but still no changes! I have this ongoing joke with my friend Frank, that if a guy is attracted to me or I’m attracted to him he’s probably one (or all) of the following: jerk, asshole, immature, inconsiderate, an idiot. They’re really good at disguising it at first too. I fall for it. . .e v e r y time!
Last week I was stood up by someone I had been talking to for a while. He made a date, postponed, then the postponed date didn’t ever happen. No explanation, no sorry, no phone call . . .nada. Oh, and no, nothing happened to him either, we have mutual friends and seems like he’s still breathing.
So I mentally made a list of the top 5 worst guys/dates I’ve ever had. These are in no order, they’re all equally bad:
1. Being stood up by this guy who seemed genuinely interested in me. This is the most recent that’s why it’s number one. I still can’t seem to wrap my brain over the fact that he turned out to be so rude to me. It’s hard to go from, *swoon* he’s so adorable, so sweet, so nice. . . to wtf? Where is he? I was stood up? WHY?! And then go to, “Is he okay? Maybe something happened.” Then find out nothing happened, and I was really stood up and then I go back to, “UGH, that’s so wrong! I deserve an apology.” And then realize that in life we don’t usually get what we deserve. Grrrr.
2. Once I met up a guy on our first date at this restaurant/pub. He was witty, nice, so sweet. . .the usual perfect man in disguise. We made plans to meet right after his last winter final. I get there first and I’m just shaking with nerves and excited. He walks in and he has a rose in his hand. Before I got a chance to say, “Awe,” he threw it in my face and said, “Here, I guess you deserve this.” He was rude to the waitress (SOOO RUDE), mean to me, and apparently he had bombed some really important test. As soon as he walked into the restroom, I stayed at the table debating, “Do I leave? This is my chance!” The waitress walked by, she was about to pass my table and she turned back around and said, “Girl if I were you, I’d leave, what a jerk!” So I did. Never heard from him again.
3. I was dating a guy for months and everything seemed great. We were awesome, very compatible, we were doing pretty good. At a friends wedding, while we were on the dance floor he looks at me and says, “I wish Hallmark made an I hate you card, I’d buy it and give it to you.” I was shocked but then thought he was joking. There was no reason to be mean to me. We never even fought! I laughed and said, “What? Why?” And then he said, “This isn’t working out.” And he left me in the middle of the dance floor. (later on he tried to redeem himself, but I’m not a forgiving person.)
4. I once had a lunch date with an ex-coworker. We kept in touch for years. When I showed up to the restaurant, she was accompanied by some guy. I figured it was a coworker who tagged along. I sat down and she introduced me. Then she says, “Oh, you know what I have to go back to work. Why don’t you two have lunch.” She hadn’t even told me I was going on a blind date and it was so awkward. I was mixed with angry and confused emotions that I really didn’t care to make a good impression. That poor guy, he apologized for HER rudeness and told me he would have never accepted if he would have known I didn’t know about it.
5. I had this friend who I randomly dated off an on. We remained pretty close friends and kept in touch a lot. On the day my grandmother was having heart surgery he gives me a call. He quickly asked about my grandmother and before I could even talk he cuts me off and tells me, “Hey I’m on my lunch break. Real quick, do you have any STD’s because you’re the last girl I was with and I want to sleep with this girl I’m dating but I haven’t gotten checked.” We hadn’t been together in about a year and a half. . .and I’m on the other end of the phone concerned about my grandmother’s heart surgery and he had the gall to just ask me like that even though he should regularly get checked because it’s the MATURE thing to do! Yeah, we’re not friends anymore.
Now that I’ve made that list, I got a couple of more, but I’ll leave it at 5. You know, reading back on this it doesn’t really make me mad. Makes me laugh a bit, one of those, “I can’t believe people like this exist” type of laugh, if that make any sense.
So what’s the worst date you’ve ever been on?

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laurie on 21 Oct 2007 at 6:12 pm #
OMG. #3 and #5 are like OMG. WTF?? what idiots. especially #5. I feel bad for the girl he was planning on sexing. poor girl. he hadn’t been with anyone in a year and a half, that can’t be good.
um some guy left me at one of his friends house, who I’d never met before after he realized I wasn’t gonna be giving it up. His friend ended up trying to take me home that night, but got a flat tire on the interstate, fixed it then tried to take me home again only to get ANOTHER flat on another tire ON THE INTERSTATE AT ONE IN THE MORNING. do you know how dangerous that was? we waited there for a tow truck for like 2 hours, and he had the tow truck guy take me home. yeah. that was fun.
msondo on 22 Oct 2007 at 12:28 am #
Holy crap, girl. That is some serious bad luck. You are right, though. Now that you look back it just must all seem so hilarious. Thankfully, I never really dated anybody. The few girls I was interested in the past never showed interest until Gema and we just moved directly into the “going out” phase.
laura on 22 Oct 2007 at 10:15 am #
holy crap. what the hell is wrong with these guys? you are friggin’ KICK-ASS!! can’t they see??
B_T on 22 Oct 2007 at 2:53 pm #
Way to not forgive. Forgiveness is for losers. Winners (that is to say, Geminis), they bear heavy grudges. Which is why their decisions are focused and driven! WINNERS!
cindylu on 22 Oct 2007 at 5:00 pm #
Wow. some of these seem too bad to actually be true, but I believe you. Maybe it’s something in the Dallas water? I don’t know…
My worst date? The guys who left me with that “wtf?” attitude after we dated were generally not jerks, they just got a little weird. Like, everything seemed cool, and then all of a sudden they stopped calling/texting/emailing without any sort of explanation. It just stopped. Dude, I can take being dumped, but at least tell me.
joel DCNATS on 23 Oct 2007 at 8:26 am #
I met a girl at a party -friend of a friend sort of thing- and we ended up hooking up. In the morning she decided to tell me that “Oh by the way, I’m engaged, and I should have never done this- it was a mistake.”
But after telling me it was a mistake she hung around at my place all afternoon. She wouldn’t leave… I tried making subtle hints and finally had to make up some lame excuse to get her out of the house.
I didn’t hear from her for like 3 months (which was fine by me) and then all of a sudden she shows up one night and we repeated that first night: hook up, then “oh my god I’m engaged and I’m going to hell”, and finally the part where she hangs around all day.
This time I told her she not to come back unless she could either [a] not be engaged, or [b] not freak out in the morning… She didn’t come back.
She eventually ended up breaking up with her fiancé only to marry some other guy like a month later. Thankfully I was not that other guy.
Julissa on 23 Oct 2007 at 11:04 am #
I give this a big WTF!! I mean I understand 1 or 2, but 5 WTF dating moments that is wrong. That is so wrong. Limpias sound good right about now.
graciela on 23 Oct 2007 at 10:46 pm #
oh my, nena- you might have me beat with a few of them there girl…
Jeff on 25 Oct 2007 at 10:26 am #
On behalf of all real men out there, I apologize. Most of us are no way near that fucked up. I cannot believe that some people are like that. It boggles my mind.
I won’t say that only men are like that, but it seems like we only hear the stories that come from women because men aren’t really the type to write about being stood up…lol
Perhaps it’s my positive nature, but I always tend to look at those kind of situations as good things. I say that in the sense of realizing what kind of an asshole they are before and not after you’ve invested five years of your life.
cad on 25 Oct 2007 at 8:06 pm #
laurie - Dude, okay that’s pretty bad. Two flats! GOOD LORD! Bet you never thought the tow truck guy was gonna take you home that day!!
msondo - hahaha, yeah bad luck!
laura - dude,,, I don’t know what is wrong with them! LOL haha
B_T - lol, u reminded me of “If you’re not first your last! Haha
Cindylu - girl I wish some of those were fake. But alas, they’re all real! I think someone should come out with an etiquette book for single men. LOL
joel DCNATS - um, that girl sounds weird!!! Thankfully you’re not that other guy!!
Julissa - yeah, I should start a pot for a limpia. Recommend anyone?
Graciela - yeah, I’m not all that happy about winning this contest! Lol
Jeff - I don’t take it positive at first then after awhile I pretty much think of it like you say. At least I know now rather then later. But I have to admit, it is funny looking back at some of these!
Bo on 30 Oct 2007 at 1:07 am #
I’ll echo what Jeff said. On behalf of all mankind, sorry. Despite being a guy, I’ll admit to being stood up a time or two, and I know how much it sucks.
It could have been worse. You could have gone out on the date and had as bad a time as you’d have with the kind of jerk that would stand somebody up.
Or you could have gone on the date and then gotten projectile vomiting sick in the middle of it. (Trust me, that one sucks, too.)
Leo on 31 Oct 2007 at 6:30 pm #
Wow, those are some amazing stories (in the post and in the comments). I’ve had some bad dates but they’re not stories I can share.
In general, I feel sorry for people like this. I mean, I know they’re jerks or just really weird, and you’re right be angry with them, but … I think these men will be lonely and messed up for their entire lives. If they are doing such horrible things to you, they probably have some real problems dealing with relationships and people in general. That will result in failed relationships and major life problems.
Just be glad you’re not them, and also that you’re not in a long-term relationship with them.
la rebelde on 06 Nov 2007 at 9:18 pm #
hi. this is the first time i’ve been to your bloga!
#2, 3 and 5 had me staring at the computer with my jaw to the floor in disbelief. and all i could think was WHAT?! those guys are ridiculous.
your post kinda reminded me of that movie “High Fidelity” where the main character picks “top 5s”–and does his “top 5 breakups.”
my dating record as of late has had me thinking that the super sweet, super nice ones with the smiles that light up the room are the ones that run the fastest when things are going well. then they start dating someone else seriously a few months later. i’m beginning to think i’m the “practice girl” but then again, maybe they’re MY practice guys!
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